Beyond the Classroom: Why Your Child Needs You More Than Just a Provider
You’ve probably had those moments when your child comes home from school, talking about
what they learned. And as they start recounting their lessons, you might think, “Thank God for
teachers. At least I don’t have to worry about that part.” Maybe because you can no longer
remember the basic LCM and Logarithms.
But here’s a truth you can’t ignore: You’re needed more than you might realize. And not just to
make sure they finish their homework. We, as parents, have a role that goes beyond the basics: feeding, clothing, and making sure our children don’t show up to school in mismatched clothes. We have a role to play in shaping them into individuals who are ready to tackle life not just have good grades.
The Power of Parental Involvement: Why You Matter
Growing up in a typical African home, I didn’t just hear, “Go to school and study Hard.” No,
there was discipline. There were lessons. My parents taught me that education was about more
than getting a good grade on a test it was about learning principles for life.
Research shows that when parents take an active interest in their children’s education, they are
more likely to succeed, develop strong social skills, and perform better academically. The truth
is, the foundation laid at home often determines the future success of our children.
Think about Samuel Eto’o, one of Africa’s greatest footballers. His father didn’t just tell him to
play football; he taught him discipline, hard work, and that success requires effort. Eto’o has
shared how his father was a constant guide, even in the toughest times. This doesn’t mean you have to be a football coach, but it does mean that your guidance, encouragement, and discipline
can shape your child’s future in ways they might not immediately understand.
So, How Can You Step In? Here Are 5 Ways You Can Help Your Child Beyond the
Classroom:
- Ask About Their Day And Mean It
Asking your child how their day went might seem routine, but how many of us listen
deeply to their responses? Take the time to really hear them. Ask specific questions:
What was the best part of your day? What was difficult? You might discover areas where
they need help or even where they’re excelling. It’s more than just a polite question it’s
an opportunity to guide them. - Encourage Their Hobbies, But Keep Them Focused
The classroom teaches them the basics, but hobbies teach them life skills. Whether it’s
sports, music, or any other talent, help them find something they love outside of school.
However, there’s a fine line hobbies should not take over their academic focus.
Encourage them to balance their interests with their studies. A child who plays football
can still be disciplined enough to focus on their schoolwork. - Teach Values and Principles Beyond the Textbook
Teach your child values that will serve them for life honesty, hard work, and
perseverance. These are the things that textbooks won’t teach them, but that will take
them much further in life. When they face challenges whether it’s a tough subject or a
problem with a friend your role is to help them develop a mindset that will allow them to
face it with determination. - Support Their Efforts, Not Just Their Grades
Many parents focus on the final grade, but it’s the effort that should matter more. Praise
your child for their hard work, their commitment, and their resilience even if the result
isn’t perfect. This teaches them that the journey is as important as the destination. We are
all a work in progress. - Be Present: Your Child Needs You
Your presence means more than just showing up for parent-teacher meetings. It’s about
being there for them when they need help with their homework, being involved in their
school activities, and showing them that you value their education. The more present you
are in their lives, the more they’ll appreciate their learning journey.
Conclusion: Your Child Needs You More Than You Think
As African parents, we understand the importance of discipline and structure, but it’s just as
important to guide our children through their learning process. Being actively involved in their
education goes beyond making sure they go to school. It’s about teaching them life principles,
encouraging them through struggles, and supporting their growth in every way possible.
Your role as a parent is vital to their success, not only in school but in life. So, don’t
underestimate your power your involvement can shape your child into the successful, well-
rounded adult they are destined to become.